Why You Should Ditch the Scale

Although weight loss is a significant goal, I believe that we can set fitness and wellness goals for ourselves that are even more meaningful and important. This blog post is all about why I plan on ditching the scale, and you should too!

I’m just going to put this meme right here. I saw it a few years ago, and I laughed out loud but also groaned inside my head. Since my late twenties to now, I have easily put on ten to fifteen pounds. When I think of the number on the scale and the increase in clothing sizes, this bothers me.  And yet, I find that I love the way I look slightly more than when I was younger. For the most part, I find that my body image is actually more positive in the past, but I still have a long way to go.

1. Body Hang-Ups Happen At Any Weight

 This summer, my friends and I sat at the neighborhood public pool, sunbathing…the most vulnerable time for most women! We each commiserated about something that we didn’t like about our bodies. We talked about muscle tone, being too skinny, having thick thighs, and obsessing over belly fat. Every single one of us had something that we didn’t like about our bodies. When I was in my teens and early twenties, I didn’t talk about it with my friends, but I always thought about what I did or didn’t like.

Sometimes we are too busy comparing ourselves to other people. Sometimes we get stuck comparing our bodies to what we looked like 5 or 10 years ago. I have never liked my stomach region! No matter what the weight on the scale said for me, even at my lowest, I have never liked it. We also need to accept that many people feel this way, even if you think they look perfectly fine.

 

Instead of fixating on the number on the scale to be the perfect “fix” for our body hang-ups, we need to focus on which parts of our bodies we love. You can always “accentuate the positive!” I feel on top of the world when I’m wearing clothing that shows off all of my favorite parts (shoulders, calves, etc.). Yes, you can improve the areas you don’t love through fitness and diet, but the first place that you need to “eliminate the negative” is in your own mind.  If you want to hear more about how to feel good in your clothes, click here to see one of my previous posts.

2. Women’s Bodies are Designed Differently

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 We fall into a dangerous trap comparing ourselves to other people. I used to be guilty of looking up the weight of celebrities who were the same height as I was, and trying to be that weight. Most of the time, their weight was a good ten pounds less than I was. I have never weighed 110-115 pounds at 5’5″ in my adult life, and yet this is the weight I would try to achieve. I’m not saying that celebrities aren’t real people….but they do have personal trainers and often people to cook for them. This can be unrealistic for an everyday person to try to achieve. We are juggling work, cooking healthy meals, trying to exercise, being able to relax, and taking care of our families. We can’t do it all every single day. 

We also compare ourselves to the people we see every day… our friends, our family, and co-workers. As discussed in a previous article, women each have a different body shape. Your body is just not going to be the same as your best friend. End of story! In terms of body shape, I have friends who are each of the different shapes (ruler, pear, apple, inverted triangle). I could never be just like them if I tried! We need to appreciate our bodies for their uniqueness and strength.

3. Same Weight, Different Results

 One of the reasons I feel better now than I did in high school is that I actually work out now. I would fixate over my weight and still see cellulite on my thighs (I no longer care about that…it seems inevitable!). A few years ago, I started taking long hikes every day during the summer and doing interval training. My legs were cut! And guess what?? I weighed the exact same as I did before…but I felt and looked better. The scale just shows you a number, but nothing else.

4. Shut Up! You’re Beautiful Already!

 Unless I am grossly mistaken, there is no person going around and weighing everyone to determine if they are beautiful or not. You may be worried about your number on the scale, but I guarantee your boyfriend is probably not thinking about it! My boyfriend won’t even listen to me talk about any of this nonsense. It’s due to him that I am slightly heavier… we love to go out to eat, especially for breakfast! He loves me the way that I am, and I also know friends whose boyfriends/husbands couldn’t care less about their weight.  We are able to enjoy our lives and just be happy by doing the things we love!

5. Weight is NOT the Best Measurement

 Weight is a very commonly used measurement for physical fitness. Considering that your weight may not determine your level of fitness (see #3 above), there are other, better measurements that you can use to set fitness goals. Have you heard that muscle weighs more but is denser than fat? Your weight may stay the same, but often your circumference measurements of your arms, thighs, waist, bust, and hips will decrease. If you want a numerical measurement to measure progress, here it is. You can also see if you are able to fit into pants that were a little snug in the past. I am currently a size 6, but have many size 4 jeans and dress pants that I would love to squeeze into.

You could also measure the amount of reps or how much weight you were able to lift, and how this increases over time.  In addition, you can set goals about how many crunches or push-ups you can do in a row. You could time yourself doing planks, wall sits, or running a 5K.  After that, keep trying to beat your personal best to continue improvement.

Hopefully, exercising makes you just feel better on its own! I only recently started a pretty cool workout program and meal plan with Beach Body. I am already feeling so great and accomplished at the end of a workout, and love how rock hard my thighs feel after a week of workouts. Talk about intrinsic motivation! I am not a big fan of dieting but so far am enjoying trying new foods. I feel super energized, despite it being the first week of school, due to the foods I’m eating and trying to make exercise a routine.

 

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My Hip Hop Dance Class with Fields Fitness!

Just finding something that you love to do to exercise is half the battle. I have always loved the Just Dance video games and started trying Zumba in 2014. It turns out, even though I had never been trained as a dancer when I was younger, I just love dancing! I recently joined an amazingly cool hip-hop glow dance class in Philly with Vernique Fields (she’s a DJ and fitness instructor!). It’s so much easier to exercise when you really, really like it. One other thing that I love doing is taking my dog, Gatsby, for walks.

In Summary…

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  As you can see, I never told you to stop working out or eating healthy. Just don’t obsess over the number on the scale. If you need to wean yourself off from the scale, do it every week, then every other week, and eventually monthly. We all fluctuate a little bit day to day, so there’s no sense in beating yourself up over small differences! It’s also okay to set fitness and wellness goals for yourself, but keep these points in mind. We are more than our hang-ups, bodies, and weight.

“We are more than just flesh and bones. There’s a certain spiritual nature and something of the mind that we can’t measure. We can’t find it. With all our sophisticated equipment, we cannot monitor or define it, and yet it’s there.”

-Benjamin Carson

Tell me, what resonated with you in this blog post? What’s one goal you set for yourself that has nothing to do with weight? What’s your favorite way to exercise?

Until next time…

Melissa

 

 

 

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  1. You are so right about ditching the scales. I got really obsessed with checking my weight at one point and lost far too much but in an unhealthy way. Than I became seriously ill ironically (not from that), and lost even more. I’m getting there now though.

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    1. That’s good! We know in our brains that it’s healthier! I’m looking forward to my clothes fitting better. Hopefully I’ll see results after a few more weeks! 😊 Thanks for commenting!

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  2. Lovely post – it’s certainly not about the number on the scale! Staying active and moving in a way that brings you joy, eating healthily but still enjoying treats – these things are far more important. It’s too easy to believe we’ll never be “good enough” or happy until we hit some goal weight that may not even be right for our body type.

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    1. Well that’s good! It’s only bad when we attach a lot of our self worth to the number we see! My batteries are dead, so I’ve definitely ditched it for now. πŸ˜›

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  3. I adore this! And I absolutely agree. We can’t let a scale define our self love, confidence or happiness. I got rid of mine when I gained a lot of weight during my initial Graves Disease treatment. Seeing the numbers just made me miserable, and that wasn’t helping anyone!

    Wonderful advice 😊. Thanks for sharing such an important message!

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    1. Yes, you could also always be more fit but weigh more due to having more muscle and less fat. Measuring inches would show the progress much better! 😊

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  4. Thank you for such an uplifting post! I’m one who has always struggled with weight and at times I HAVE hidden the scale! I also hate going to the doctor’s office, especially when “weighing in” is the first thing they do – it’s so stressful! I’m approaching 60, and have some health issues, but in the interest of being around longer for my younger hubby (13 years younger), my four kids, and my four granddaughters (so far), I am once again working out here at home on a regular basis. I have actually lost about 20 lbs. in the past few months, but more importantly – as you said – I’ve also lost about 4 inches off my waist. The fact that clothes that used to be too tight are now LOOSE is very encouraging!

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    1. Thank you so sharing your story! I truly hate the doctors office scale too. I think the scale makes it too easy for us to get discouraged if the number goes up or down.

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  5. I absolutely love this post! As women, it’s so hard not to nitpick at our bodies especially when we don’t look like the standard beauty of the time. I recently had to quit looking at the scale during my weight loss journey. I feel lighter, fit my clothes better, but the scale barely moved. That’s when I learned to stop looking.
    xx Tatyanna
    http://www.apopoflife.com

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    1. Thank you! Just remember all of the wonderful things that your body can do and how strong you are! For you and your kiddos! Congrats!

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  6. Yes! It’s so true that weight is not a great calculator to go by since it could be muscle weight and not “fat”. I love how you say to just believe you’re beautiful already. You’re absolutley right, it has nothing to do with weight and I wish more women realized that!

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    1. Thank you so much for your comment! Yes, some of my good friends get down on themselves and I just want to tell them to cut it out!

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    1. It’s hard not to. Just remember that weekly weigh ins are more accurate than daily weigh ins. Water weight and other factors can play a big part in this, so think about why you’re doing it and if it’s really benefiting you.

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  7. I think there are many things in this post that resonate with most women. The scale is never a friend to many of us. But one thing is for certain, we can make changes that create positive and healthy changes in our lifestyle. But we have to ready and honest about those changes.

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  8. I could not agree more! I had a weight loss goal last month that I didn’t meet yet I went down a dress size. I’ve also noticed in past pictures that the same weight looks differently depending on my age, my diet, & workout routine! Yay, body positivity!

    You’re beautiful!!
    Joy

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  9. This is awesome!! I recently joined a work out program and after the 2nd week I was frustrated my weight hadn’t moved! I gave up and instantly packed on an additional 7 pounds πŸ˜” I decided to start over, more motivated than ever but this time I hid the scale and took my measurements… I’m 3 weeks in and 2 inches down!! It’s visible and I feel great! πŸ€—

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  10. I totally agree. The number can be such an unreliable judge of overall fitness. Right now I’m the lowest weight of my life and I get a lot of incidental exercise with my kids but am I the healthiest ever? Not sure, I eat a lot of convenience foods and my workout is limited to running up and down my stairs all day long. Being healthy is so much more important than the number on the scale. No one wants to be a skinny corpse right???

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  11. Honestly, I have never owned a scale. I have never understood why we needed a number to tell me what my self-worth was and still don’t. I am curvy and a lot more chubs than when I was 20…but like you, I like the way I look. I am healthy and exercise and to me, that’s what’s important. Not the numbers on the scale.

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